The ones that get away…
So thoughts tonight are on a man who was an incredible initiator for the Melbourne Youtube community. His name was Jarrod and he founded a company called vidception. He died a few nights ago through supposedly cancer. Now I didn’t personally know him, I knew of him and shook his hand once at a Youtube gathering, but I always get bemused at the comments people post on someone’s profile AFTER they die.
I don’t accuse anyone in particular, but I’ve lost both my grandmas and I’ve heard people say how they never spent enough time with her and shit like that. But the thing is, when she was alive, they never came around to visit. When she was sick in hospital, they never came around to visit as well. All of a sudden, when she died, everyone gave a little sob story and moved on with their lives.
It’s a flaw in the system. If you asked me would I rather hear nice things people said about me whilst I was alive or when I was dead, I would want to hear them when I’m alive. It’s the number one reason I don’t hold any personal grudges, and if I do I let them go because I could die anytime, they could as well, it’s not worth carrying a feud for the rest of your life.
The thing I really dislike are comments made about the ones who pass away. “My thoughts are with their family,” - You didn’t know them or their family… “I wish I could tell you this to your face” - well you had your chance… “They’re in a better place now” - not really… “Rest in Peace” - well what else is there to say?
I just feel like these things become mandatory things to say. It’s like when people (like me) say “bless you” after someone sneezes. I guess what I’m getting at is there’s people who have never talked to that deceased person but find comfort in making a Facebook status wishing them to rest in peace. It feels like it’s some kind of trending topic.
"Almost dying changes nothing. Dying changes everything."